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When you’ve been doing what I’ve been doing for 20+ years, you’ve heard most of the stories out there for why a person can’t have what they really want. People seem to love defending their stuckness! The fact is if you say so, it is so. If you say you can’t and give me a list of reasons why, then you are absolutely correct. But you also have just as much ability to flip the question and ask, “What are the reasons I CAN?” Meditate on that! This shift can change the course of your life dramatically in the direction of living your desires. {lesson #1} Are you Using your Stories to “Protect” Yourself? Most people that explore coaching have a strong need to tell me all the things they must figure out, all the things in their way, all the reasons why what they want is near impossible – even though they are on a call to change! The experience from my end, of observer, is like someone throwing punches to defend their problems. They think that their situation is unique. It isn’t. What they are spouting are human fears, which are universal, and it is ok to have them. I have heard them over and over and over again, and quite frankly I rarely need the “whole story” because it’s not actually accurate. It’s a smokescreen to hide fear. Go Directly to Truth When I’ve gone on coaching calls myself as a client, I’ve learned to stop talking so much. Because if I am, I’m travelling into my stories. Instead I’ve learned to quiet myself, check deeper within, and pose my real question or my real challenge. This takes practice, but it creates real results. {lesson #2} Deal with the Lies Head On It can feel threatening to be told that you can have what you want, after years of playing the game of “no”. In fact I’ve had experiences where I’ve coached people to the answers they were dearly hoping for to find them turn away and not acknowledge what was achieved. (in shorter sessions) If you’ve been spending years telling yourself that there is no way forward that would be truly satisfying and accomplish-able, then imagine how vulnerable it will feel when you realize that this belief a lie and it IS possible for you to choose another route. Yep, that’s scary. And that’s the starting point to a shift. {lesson #3} Commit for the Long Haul I only do coaching packages rather than sessions that can be bought one-at-a time because of the reality of the process. One-off sessions chosen willy-nilly, according to when a client thinks they need them, do not create change or produce results that are anywhere near transformational. They’re usually only band-aids to make themselves feel better in the moment. Transformation takes time and I need to be with the person through the parts where they’re going to want to turn back, when they fear they can’t do it, when life throws challenges their way. We have to go beyond that. Quite frankly receiving coaching for several months when you are seeking real change is nothing compared to the years that I see people holding off on what they really want and bearing the costs of that emotionally, financially, and physically. Explore how coaching can support you.
You Always Get to Choose Are you busy defending your right to remain stuck? Are you defending your right to take years achieving your true desires one tiny step at a time? That’s available to you. And I won’t ever take that away – unless you want me to. But then you better be open to results. And you better be open to being seen and loved and appreciated and supported. It won’t necessarily be be a sweet, nurturing form of love (you have your family or friends for that)- it’ll sometimes be firm and direct, sometimes it’ll push your brain to think larger. Sometimes, it’ll mean (compassionately) seeing the lies you’ve been believing. But guess what, you’ll be so relieved once you see how ok it is to talk frankly and in real terms and stop being coddled to protect what is actually limiting you. When You’re Called to Say “YES” Does this all speak to you? Do you feel some tug within to go forward? Are you sick of what hasn’t really been enough or ok? Listen. For those brave enough to love themselves (love is not just a feeling – it is action) and grant themselves an opportunity to be asked better questions, to be seen, and not allow their “song to be unsung” in this life – talk to me. Let’s see how thin the veil is from living the life you want. Request a conversation: info@joiworks.com
To the Realization of your Vision,
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Which Stories are You Listening To?
