Do you believe you are Capable and Worthy?

One of my loyal blog followers sent me the following question the other day:

Q.

“I have a noticed that some extraordinary people I meet truly seem to believe they are capable and worthy – that seems to be the difference between me and them that is most apparent. I wonder what it is that makes the difference between feeling it and believing it, or not?”

A.

This is a great question! It stops many from living the life for which they are meant. There are a few reasons why certain people feel and believe they are capable and worthy while others don’t. I’ll return to this later.

I expect this writer really wants to know how to move through this apparent wall between her current life and the one she really desires. I’ll recommend two approaches, but first here’s the back story.

The Backstory: The truth is that people who are not feeling and believing capable and worthy have bought into an illusion, a lie.

Imagine your life as a movie. Prior to the movie, you were a part of the Universal Oneness, knowing your wholeness. Then you decided to be birthed on this earth as a way to experience a material world with emotions and physical experiences. Just as a movie has a plot and ups and downs, you chose to create such a life. You knew it wasn’t the truth, but like a play or game that you were experiencing. Knowing that you’d return to wholeness again, it didn’t concern you that there were some tough times. You just thought that was awesome and cool. So your character may have chose to feel unworthy and incapable of doing what it really wanted. And you believed it and acted accordingly. Other characters chose other beliefs and also acted accordingly.

Approaches to Changing Beliefs

Approach 1: Now the reality is that those beliefs can be changed anytime in order to play a different game. The way to do that is to see the game for what it is and when you’ve had enough of it, or gotten bored by it, to choose another one. How do you change the game? There are many tools out there to change beliefs (EFT, talk therapy, energy healing…).

Here are 5 steps you can take:

• Get curious about what you believe. Note it down. E.g. “I am not capable or worthy of having what I want.”
• Cancel out your old belief and rewrite it to what you’d like to now choose. E.g. I am capable and worthy of having what I want.
• Look for evidence every day for a period of 40 days that proves you are capable and worthy (or whatever belief you chose). E.g. “I have a job that supports me. I have people who care about what happens to me. I am given the same hours in a day as everyone else. My basic needs are met every day.” The examples can be the simple truth of being alive as the ones I’ve shown and some days they will be new ones. E.g. “I got a compliment today, so I must be worthy. A friend took me out to dinner, so I must be worthy. I conquered a challenging task at work, so I must be capable.” And so on…Do not be fooled by the simplicity of this daily practice!
• At the end of your day, repeat your evidence out loud and receive it and feel it in your heart. Take your time. Let these good things “land”.
• You can also use Byron Katie’s 4 questions: Is it true? (is it true that I’m not capable and worthy?) Do I really know it’s true? What if I changed that around? (I am capable and worthy) Who would I be without that thought? I love this last question – it’s a transformer!

Approach 2: Ignore the lie!! Dig in to your true desires and go for it. Learn what you need to learn. Do the work. Get support. Take action in the direction of your vision. Do it anyway. Be willing to fail (which is a stepping stone to success). Stop caring about what other people think. Be real. Walk through your fear. See how this lie can keep you from doing what you really want and choose to get real instead. Use confidence building activities every day and create powerful new evidence (this is my favourite).

You ARE inherently capable and worthy. There is no being on this planet who isn’t. It’s simply a lie that you chose to believe at a young age because you took things in as they came. For various reasons, it stuck with you and is playing out simply because you continue focusing on it. One can go digging out old beliefs and working on them – if that works for you, great! Other times, however, it’s best to simply ignore the lie and get on with your life and what you want to do. The real truth is often that a person is scared to fail. Let that be ok – every one is scared. You can change that to excitement by focusing on how amazing it’ll feel to have what you want.

Personally, I’ve done some work on the first approach but notice I am most empowered and energized by the latter. I’ve coached clients who moved from fear and resistance to confidence and results rapidly and had fun doing it using the methods I offer. I like fun and find it speeds progress like nothing else!

There is plenty of evidence that the people who succeed in big ways are those who persisted – not the ones that were smarter, more beautiful, wiser, more clever, faster or anything else like that. They simply did not stop.

Jasjit Rai is a Transformational Coach and a Nia Black Belt. Her approach is to put joy at the forefront and invite success to multiply from this foundation of truth and strength. https://joiworks.com